Perheväkivalta

Tässä sivuston osassa olemme kasanneet perheväkivallan epätasa-arvosta kertovia uutisointeja ja tutkimuksia. Näiden pohjalta tulemme esittämään jäsentävän kokonaisnäkemyksen tilanteesta.

”TUHANSIEN ISKUJEN MAA, Miesten kokema väkivalta Suomessa” http://www.heuni.fi/material/attachments/heuni/reports/6KHnLcUwR/Full_report_66.pdf

”Feminist Death Threats: The Anti-Equality Revolution – A Conversation with Erin Pizzey” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lxoStFBrjo

“5 Things Women Do Better Than Men”
http://www.examiner.com/article/5-things-women-do-better-than-men

“What about men? Lies, statistics . . . and peddling myths about violence against women”: http://www.thecitizen.org.au/features/what-about-men-lies-statistics-and-peddling-myths-about-violence-against-women#sthash.sxcjETY7.dpuf

“The Secrets & Lies Of White Ribbon” http://relatingtomen.com/blog/the-secrets-lies-of-white-ribbon/

“Refuting 40 years of lies about domestic violence” http://whiteribbon.org/domestic-violence-law/refuting-40-years-of-lies-about-domestic-violence/

“Domestic violence against men: Know the signs”: http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence-against-men/art-20045149
Naiset ovat parisuhteessa kontrolloivampia ja aggressiivisempia:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/10927507/Women-are-more-controlling-and-aggressive-than-men-in-relationships.html
Miesten osuus parisuhdeväkivallan uhreista 40 % Iso-Britanniassa:
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence

”Yllättävä” totuus naisista ja väkivallasta:
http://time.com/2921491/hope-solo-women-violence/

Laajempi tutkimuskooste (This bibliography examines 286 scholarly investigations: 221 empirical studies and 65 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners.  The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 371,600.):
http://web.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

Parisuhdeväkivallan sukupuolijakaumaa koskevat tutkimustulokset Suomessa:
https://miestentasaarvory.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/lsvv-taulukko.jpg

”Vaiettu naiseus-raportti (2009)” http://www.ensijaturvakotienliitto.fi/liitto/julkaisut/vaiettu_naiseus-raportti_2009/
Perheväkivalta, wikipedia:
https://fi.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perhev%C3%A4kivalta#cite_note-Nieminenym1-42

“Valtaosa perhesurmista äitien tekemiä”: http://www.kaleva.fi/uutiset/kotimaa/valtaosa-perhesurmista-aitien-tekemia/606365/

”Suurin osa perhesurmista naisten tekemiä”: http://www.savonsanomat.fi/uutiset/kotimaa/suurin-osa-perhesurmista-naisten-tekemia/1921577

“Helgaa lyötiin ensimmäisen kerran parivuotiaana: ”Kuritus loppui, kun äiti ei enää jaksanut lyödä””: http://www.iltasanomat.fi/terveys/art-1451374136907.html

” Harvard study says 70 percent of domestic violence is committed by women against men”: http://newscastmedia.com/domestic-violence.htm

CDC Study: More Men than Women Victims of Partner Abuse”: http://www.saveservices.org/2012/02/cdc-study-more-men-than-women-victims-of-partner-abuse/

“Kaikkea väkivaltaa on torjuttava tehokkaasti” http://www.hs.fi/mielipide/a1449033328534?jako=005f6d40613ff6320951a23711666c74

”Lakimuutoksen seuraus: Naisten epäiltyjä lasten pahoinpitelyjä ilmi enemmän”:
http://www.savonsanomat.fi/uutiset/kotimaa/naisten-epailtyja-lasten-pahoinpitelyja-ilmi-enemman/2150737

”Äiti älä lyö – Keskimäärin yksi lapsi joutuu joka päivä pitkäaikaiseen sairaalahoitoon, koska omat vanhemmat ovat pahoinpidelleet häntä. Äiti lyö useammin kuin isä.”: http://yle.fi/aihe/artikkeli/2009/01/22/aiti-ala-lyo

”Hoivamyytti murenee – nainen nujakoi ja lyö”: http://yle.fi/uutiset/hoivamyytti_murenee_-_nainen_nujakoi_ja_lyo/6632298

”Nuoret naiset tekevät aiempaa enemmän henkirikoksia”: http://www.mtv.fi/uutiset/rikos/artikkeli/nuoret-naiset-tekevat-aiempaa-enemman-henkirikoksia/3451332

”Törkeä perheväkivalta kohdistuu miehiin naisia useammin”: http://yle.fi/uutiset/torkea_perhevakivalta_kohdistuu_miehiin_naisia_useammin/5487134

”Tasa-arvoa puheisiin”: http://www.kodinkuvalehti.fi/artikkeli/osallistu/ihmisten_kesken/tasa_arvoa_puheisiin
Ovatko naiset unohtaneet tasa-arvon? Miehet ovat omaksuneet tasa-arvon jo aikaa sitten. Naiset sen sijaan käyttäytyvät miehiä kohtaan yhä sovinistisemmin, ja kanssasisaret pitävät sitä aivan oikeutettuna. Naistenlehden juttu siitä, miten kasvattaa miestä kuin koiraa, ei herätä minkäänlaista myrskyä. Mikä kohu nousisi, jos mies kirjoittaisi jutun ”Näin kasvatan vaimoani kuin koiraa”? Kun yksi johtaja heitti julkisuudessa sentapaista vitsiä, tuli potkut. Naiset sen kun porskuttavat, tuli suusta mitä tahansa miestä halveksivaa ja mitätöivää. Naiset ovat onnistuneet luomaan manipulaatioilmaston, jossa miehet ovat aina syyllisiä: jos nainen lyö, kysytään, mitä se mies teki, kun naisen piti oikein lyödä sitä. Vaikka mies on fyysisesti vahvempi, hän ei voi puolustautua aggressiivista naista vastaan. Ainoa tapa selvitä ilman syytteitä on lähteä karkuun. Jos joutuu puolustautuakseen ottamaan tukevan otteen naisen käsivarresta ja siihen jää mustelma, mies saa syytteen pahoinpitelystä. Kukaan ei usko, että nainen kävi päälle. Huoltajuuskysymyksissä nainen on aina ensisijainen huoltaja. Sosiaaliviranomaiset ovat naisia, ja he ovat naisten puolella. Olen töissä naisvoittoisella sosiaalialalla. Kuulen päivittäin, miten naiset puhuvat sekä omista miehistään että miehistä yleensä. He eivät edes häpeä kielenkäyttöään ja asenteitaan. Kukaan mies ei nyky-Suomessa lausuisi naisista sellaisia ajatuksia, mitä naiset laukovat miehistä. Olen monta kertaa ihmetellyt, miten niin sovinistiset naiset yleensä selviävät parisuhteessaan. Onneksi en juuri näe työkavereideni miehiä. Ilmeeni paljastaisi minut takuuvarmasti

”Suomalainen mies ei ole väkivaltainen”: http://www.ts.fi/mielipiteet/kolumnit/544097/Suomalainen+mies+ei+ole+vakivaltainen ”KOLMEN PERUSASIAN toivoisinkin tulevan muistetuiksi, kun ”suomalaisen miehen” väkivaltaisuudesta puhutaan: 1) Henkirikosten yliedustus Länsi-Eurooppaan nähden vallitsee vain Itä- ja Pohjois-Suomessa; 2) Naapurimaissamme idässä ja etelässä on enemmän surmaväkivaltaa kuin Suomessa; 3) Väkivalta on yleistä vain työelämän ulkopuolella olevien työikäisten päihdeongelmaisten miesten joukossa, jossa valtaosalla jo on rikosrekisteri. Työssä käyvä suomalainen mies, jolla ei ole aiempaan väkivaltaisuuteen liittyvää päihdeongelmaa, ei ole todennäköisempi tappaja kuin skandinaavinen tai länsieurooppalainen verrokkinsa. Kokonaisuutenakin tarkastellen suomalainen mies tappaa huomattavasti harvemmin kuin venäläinen, baltti tai vaikkapa Yhdysvaltojen kansalainen.”

“Support the Canadian Centre for Men and Families”: https://toysoldier.wordpress.com/2015/12/17/support-the-canadian-centre-for-men-and-families/The Canadian Centre of Men and Families is marking their first-year anniversary. The organization provides support for men, their families, and male victims of abuse. The organization is engaged in several operations, including creating a shelter male victims of domestic violence and fighting an anti-male policy on a college that blocks the creation of a support group for men.”

“The Feminist Elephant In The Room”: http://relatingtomen.com/blog/the-feminist-elephant/44 killed by men in family violence (58.6%) 31 killed by women in family violence (41.3%) Family violence is a generational problem, not a gendered one.”

“The Ugly Truth Of Female Violence”: http://relatingtomen.com/blog/the-ugly-truth-of-female-violence/

“Destroy The Narrative”: https://www.facebook.com/Destroy-The-Narrative-1022677657784698/?fref=ts

“The One-Sided Narrative of Domestic Violence”: http://menaregood.com/wordpress/the-one-sided-narrative-of-domestic-violence/

“1 in 4 Women Admit to Violence in Relationship”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bHJhPlgU4M

“How male victims of domestic abuse often end up getting arrested themselves”: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/crime/12061547/How-male-victims-of-domestic-abuse-often-end-up-getting-arrested-themselves.html

“VAWA must be reformed for domestic violence rates to come down”: http://thehill.com/blogs/congress-blog/judicial/280897-vawa-must-be-reformed-for-domestic-violence-rates-to-come-down “Analysts of VAWA who are more serious than Gandy know there’s no evidence that the law has ever functioned as intended. In fact, domestic violence expert Dr. Angela Moore Parmley of the U.S. Department of Justice has said, “We have no evidence to date that VAWA has led to a decrease in the overall levels of violence against women.”  The law’s proponents prefer to overlook that inconvenient fact. VAWA fails to protect male victims and that ends up harming women. The organization that tracks domestic violence policy, Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (S.A.V.E.), calculates that less than 2 percent of VAWA funding goes to help male victims or female perpetrators despite the fact that 50 percent of the victims of domestic violence are men. That unwillingness to help women who hit, or men who are hit, increases the number of women who suffer at the hands of an abuser. Why? As the social science on domestic violence has long revealed, about half of domestic violence is “reciprocal.”  That means that it’s not just John hitting Mary or Mary hitting John, but one hits and the other hits back. According to a study for the Centers for Disease Control, in about 70 percent of reciprocal cases, it was the woman who hit first and the man who retaliated. Combine that with the fact that women are about twice as likely as men to be injured in a domestic violence incident and we’re forced to conclude that one of the most important things we can do to protect women is teach them “don’t hit first.” Even if we care not a whit about male victims, we would preach that message, but VAWA-funded institutions say nothing of the kind. Their decades-old message that domestic violence is strictly gendered, apart from long being proven false, redounds to the detriment of the very people they pretend to care about – women.”

“Daughter being abused by her mother”: https://www.gofundme.com/u7hykt6cI had custody of her and we went to court she has money so she beat me and got my daughter. My daughter is in danger and social services don’t help. I am raising money for a new lawyer. Please help stop the abuse shes 1/2 white so the Chinese my ex knows treat her like garbage. She’s sad and hurt. She needs your help so we can get enough for a powerful lawyer to get her back safe in her Daddies arms. She’s been told so many horrible things about hell and she’s going there, my ex does this in Chinese so then I ask what did you say. She says just talking about school. She’s so mentally ill it’s unreal. She bangs her face off of the walls, floor and punches herself in the face and knives are her favourite weapon of choice. She’s always using them against us or herself and my 4 year old daughter suffers. What will become of her !?!”

“Domestic abuse: Men ’need more help’, victims’ organisation says”: http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-northern-ireland-35364979?SThisFB

“#2 Prevalence of Physical Violence in Intimate Relationships: Part 2. Rates of Male and Female Perpetration”: http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/springer/pa/2012/00000003/00000002/art00007;jsessionid=xw8ue5q0554z.victoria

“Mythology Is Killing The Solutions To Domestic Violence”: http://relatingtomen.com/blog/mythology-is-killing-the-solutions-to-domestic-violence/

“Women Kill Children And Feminists Are Quiet”: http://relatingtomen.com/blog/women-kill-children-and-feminists-are-quiet/

“Miehiin kohdistuva suhdeväkivalta huvittaa, naisiin kohdistuva ei”: http://havainnoija.blogspot.fi/2014/09/miehiin-kohdistuva-suhdevakivalta.html#.Vq5_-ll-bGo

“Lausunto: Hallituksen esitykseen naisiin kohdistuvan väkivallan ja perheväkivallan ehkäisemiseksi ja torjumiseksi”: http://www.maria-akatemia.fi/lausunto-hallituksen-esitykseen-naisiin-kohdistuvan-vakivallan-ja-perhevakivallan-ehkaisemiseksi-ja

“Men are facing very bad domestic violence and it is increasing suicide risk of males”: https://www.facebook.com/Antisessismo/videos/951922748195522/

“Teini syytteessä: Yllytti poikaystävänsä tekemään itsemurhan”: http://www.iltalehti.fi/ulkomaat/2016012521016996_ul.shtml Michelle Carteria, 18, syytetään kuolemantuottamuksesta Yhdysvaltain Massachusettsissa. Syytteen mukaan Carter, 18, taivutteli poikaystävänsä Conrad Royn, 18, tappamaan itsensä, minkä hän tekikin. – Koska teet sen? Carter kysyi Roylta tekstiviestissä syytteen mukaan – Sinun on parasta olla kusettamatta minua sanomalla, että teet sen ja sitten jäätkin tahallasi kiinni, viesti jatkoi.”.

“My Abuse Story”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZ27W2K12fk

”Russian Woman Caught Brutally Beating Her Little Son (VIDEO CHILLING)”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n9kKhkPfc_I&app=desktop

“Miehistö tappeli  – kone teki hätälaskun”: http://www.iltalehti.fi/ulkomaat/2016020221054021_ul.shtml “Delta Airlinesin mukaan lentoemännät olivat ajautuneet kiistaan työasioista, kun kone oli ollut ilmassa 40 minuuttia. Tappeluun osallistui kolme lentoemäntää, joista yksi sai nyrkistä naamaansa. Kapteeni päätti tehdä hätälaskun Salt Lake Cityyn, jossa koneeseen vaihdettiin uusi miehistö.

”Boys Victims of Dating Violence, Too”: http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/mobileart.asp?articlekey=193363
“FRIDAY, Jan. 29, 2016 (HealthDay News) — Contrary to what many people may think, teenage boys commonly suffer dating violence — including physical and emotional abuse, a new U.S. government study finds. The study focused on teens considered to be at high risk for dating violence — those who had suffered or witnessed violence at home or in their neighborhoods. It turned out that boys were about as likely as girls to say they’d been victims of some form of dating violence. The pattern was also corroborated by girls’ reports: They commonly admitted to being perpetrators. ”To the average person, this is probably surprising,” said Monica Swahn, a professor of epidemiology at Georgia State University who has studied dating violence. ”Parents and pediatricians may underestimate how common dating violence is, and how often boys are victims,” said Swahn, who was not involved in the study. A number of national surveys have found that U.S. girls are far more often the victims of dating violence than boys — particularly in terms of physical injuries. But the new study conflicts with those findings, said lead researcher Dennis Reidy, of the division of violence prevention at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. ”One potential reason is that we looked at a high-risk population, and not a nationally representative sample,” Reidy said. Regardless, he added, the study points out that boys can be victims, too. ”We don’t want to get locked into the mindset that boys are always the perpetrators and girls are always the victims,” Reidy said. The findings are based on more than 1,100 kids ages 11 to 17 who were surveyed about a wide range of dating violence. They were asked not only about physical abuse, but also how often they’d been sexually victimized — including having a boyfriend or girlfriend pressure them to have sex, or spread ”sexual rumors” about them. The researchers also asked about psychological and emotional abuse — like being yelled at, threatened or called names. Overall, almost 11 percent of boys said they’d been physically abused by a dating partner at least three times. That compared with slightly less than 8 percent of girls. And a similar percentage of girls and boys — around 4 percent — said they’d been injured. When it came to psychological abuse, 29 percent of boys and almost 34 percent of girls said they’d been victimized at least three times. Slightly more than 14 percent of boys and 12 percent of girls said they’d been sexually victimized that many times. The findings on sexual victimization might sound particularly surprising, Reidy said. But, he added, it may relate to the survey questions, which asked about sexual ”coercion,” rather than rape. The researchers found that some patterns varied by age. Older girls tended to report more sexual victimization than boys, for example. They also admitted inflicting physical injuries on a dating partner more often than older boys did. But Swahn said it’s not clear what to make of those patterns, since the study did not follow kids over time. ”I’d be cautious about interpreting the age-related findings,” she said. ”You need to follow the same kids over time to see whether their behavior changes.” Reidy said more research is needed to confirm the current findings, which were published online Jan. 29 in the journal Pediatrics. But for now, he said, adults need to be aware that dating violence affects girls and boys — and it starts at an early age. ”Kids are dating at an age that’s younger than you might think,” Reidy said, ”and dating violence is an issue much earlier than you might expect.” Swahn agreed. ”We probably need to start education and prevention in middle school,” she said. Schools are probably the best place to reach kids, Reidy said. And parents, of course, have a ”big role,” he added. They can talk to their kids about how to manage romantic relationships, and try to be good role models in their own behavior. But for kids from violent homes or neighborhoods, school and community programs can be crucial. ”These kids need help in learning what a healthy relationship is,” Swahn said. ”And right now, we have very limited resources for them.” Reidy agreed. But he stressed that the study findings don’t mean only disadvantaged kids suffer or perpetrate dating violence.”

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